Receivers/Takers: Takers take and keep. Receivers receive and share. If you take, there is no sharing and the energy dissipates to nothing, so even the taker has nothing. When you receive, you are open and receptive; open to the universe and the light to disperse to others, so everyone has everything.
There’s a story that Ronald Reagan used to tell about two little boys. One who is a pessimist and the other who is an optimist. The pessimist, when placed in a room full of toys is unhappy and continues to whine and cry. The optimist, when given a shovel and placed in a room full of horse manure, is happy. Asked why he’s digging away so happily, he responds: “If there’s this much of this stuff here, there’s got to be a pony somewhere!”
The pessimist takes without ever feeling happy or satisfied. In contrast, the optimist’s hope is contagious and spreads light to all whom it touches. Do you really believe it’s better to give than receive? For a moment, remember your childhood. While you loved receiving gifts at the holidays or on your birthday, remember how you waited in anticipation for someone to open the gift you gave them? As an adult, especially if you have children, aren’t you more concerned about seeing them happy with your gifts as opposed to worrying about what they give you? Your gift is the gift of their joy when they are truly happy about what you have given.
Challenge: Tighten in your hand into a closed fist. As long as your hand is closed, you can no longer receive anything. In fact, the harder you try to hang on to something, the more likely it is that your hand will become fatigued and that you will actually lose it. Now, open your fist and cup your hand. Next, pour a glass of water over your cupped hand. Your hand receives the water, but then it runs out of your hand allowing fresh water to take its place. Which would you rather drink? Water that has been trapped in your hand for days or fresh water that continuously flows? (more…)
QUOTE: “If you think you’re going to have a bad day and be sad, or you think you’re in for a happy day; trust these thoughts as your intuition is likely to be right.” (A slight amendment to the next quote below)
QUOTE: “If you think you can do a thing, or you think you can’t do a thing, you’re always right.” (Henry Ford 1863-1947)
What significance do you think those two quotes have on your happiness? They have a huge bearing on your happiness! Your attitude is a very important principle and thus should be treated with reverence.
QUOTE: “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” (Abraham Lincoln)
Finding true happiness is a very personal journey.
There isn’t a simple set of guidelines to give you happiness, because every individual finds happiness in different things. What may trigger sadness in one person could trigger happiness in another. So rather than look at specific events we shall need to look at varying emotive subjects and explore their potential.
Amongst other things I shall introduce a few concepts about ‘being happy’ that you have forgotten existed…
I say forgotten deliberately because we all possess a happy spirit, but sometimes we forget how to trigger it into action.
Allow me to introduce out a few concepts that you may find yourself nodding to. If you do nod, then perhaps you knew them already?!
1. Happiness is our right and not just a possibility.
2. Happiness is a basic human disposition.
3. There is a natural tendency to consider that every problem is sent to drill us into the ground; but in actual fact it is sent to strengthen our spirit, we only need to recognise how to convert it.
4. Our greatest gain towards happiness is often during or after our greatest period of pain. (more…)
My entire being feels sad, lonely and miserable. What a feeling for someone who preaches positive thinking I guess it easier said than done. Why am I feeling this way so early in the morning? That everything looks so uncertain, I am not sure of what to feel any more. Before when I want to feel this way I will look out and see the sun rising and it will give me new hope; at least the day is bright and fair but today even the heavens seems to agree with me no wonder the sky is dark and gloomy. Since happiness is a matter of choice why can’t I make that decision to turn around my feelings and be happy? Maybe am human after all, have I decided to be miserable and sad today? Is there any hope of my coming out of this state of mind later on today? I might not know the answers to these questions now. Am I just content with my misery; will the sun eventually come out today? Why am so lonely in mist of so many people? How I wish it is financial problem then I could ask for help from people, if it were physical sickness then I will go to the hospital. I don’t think any one can help me expect me. Then why don’t I help myself? I have a lunch date today will it be ruined by my mood? Or will I be feeling a lot better by then? I dressed my kids up for school this morning without the normal hassles I guess they sense the terrible mood that has befallen the ever cheerful mom. I am wondering what could be going through their innocent mind. Could it be the cartons brought by the moving company yesterday? Could it be the thought of around the globe journey with 4 kids 3 of which are under 5 years of age? Could it be my school works that are yet to be finished? Could it be my business? Could it be the changes that are going to take effect in my life soon? Fear of the unknown future ahead of me? Is the world coming to an end? Does my best friend know how I feel? Is he still my best friend? These feelings are not helping matters, I have hotels to find and book. I am thinking too much I guess; why can’t I stop thinking for a minute? If the sun is not coming out today, then let my wish of a rain be granted; let the rain come down and wash away my fears, let it fill my soul and drown out all my fears. Let it shatter all worlds for a new sunny day tomorrow. I can see the light in the skies.
I learnt that life catches us off guard at times.Those times that i find myself in doubt,afraid,and confused.When it feels like there is war waging in my mind.Those times i realised that i can keep going long after I thought that I couldn’t handle it anymore.
I learnt never to compare myself to others because winners compare their achievements with their goals,while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.
I learnt that maturity has little to do with age but everything to do with the types of experiences that i have had and what i was able to learn from them.Like realising that your friends can hurt you once in awhile.
I learnt that my life can change in a matter of hours by people who doesn’t know me.Your family won’t always be there for you and that meeting my husband was a turning point in my life.I learnt how to trust people again because of his care and love.
I learnt that no matter how much i blame the influence of my background and circumstance on making me who i am that i am responsible for who i choose to become.I should be ready to take responsibility for what i do,no matter how it makes me feel.
I learnt that making the decision of being nice in order not to hurt other people’s feelings and standing firm on what i believe can be very tricky.I am a very blunt person,i say things the way i see or feel it but as times go on i realised that am hurting some people’s feeling.These days even when i know that someone is lying to me or just trying to compete with me i just keep quiet.I try to avoid letting them know how foolish they are.Silence is the best answer for a fool.
I learnt that to always be a first rate version of myself instead of a second rate version of someone else.The reason why i don’t compete with anyone,i believe that i am the best that i can be.
I learnt that there are two things to aim in life: first to get what you want,and after that to enjoy it.Only wise people achieve the second.I have the choice to control my destiny and to be happy.
I learnt that there is no point in worrying about things that you can not change.Worrying is using your imagination to create something you do not want.Why not use your imagination to dream big dreams.
I learnt that if you can not find happiness in yourself don’t bother looking because it is impossible to find it elsewhere.I can go on but i would love you to contribute from your own experience.
Posted By 
tyna 
Oct 8, 2008 
