Happy Easter! I hope you are all having fun.You all remember my son Chinedu if you don’t you might like to check his essays on this (blog).We got to Nigeria and sent him to school and never knew that he was going through emotional and physical torture in that school,this wasn’t the first school under one year the first one isn’t worth wasting my valuable time to write about not minding the huge sum of money we paid that was not refunded after he spent only two weeks there.We are trying to give him the best but after these two schools am going to try once more with fingers crossed that i will nail it this time. Read his experience written by him and advice me on what i should do about what he went through, i happen to know about this during this Easter holidays,what actions should i take when school resumes?

It began when I was in the car and as I was entering the school. I read “Nigerian Navy Secondary School” “Hard work and Discipline.” That is when I knew that it wouldn’t be easy staying in this school.
As I was writing my names on my property, my school father whose name was senior Basheri who was in SSS3 explained to me that I have to be wise in this school, that this school is very different from other schools.
When I finished, we went for prep, on the way we met a tall senior wearing spec (which I later knew that he is the senior prefect). He brought out his hand between senior Basheri and I, and nothing happened for a few seconds, so I brought my hand to shake his hand. Then he said “Who the f*** are you? After senior Basheri told him who I was and I told him my name. The tall senior told me that I better be careful in this school, as soon as the senior left I started crying. Senior Basheri asked me why I was crying, then I answered that I was scared of seniors.
It was time for prep and senior Basheri took me to the hall to go and prep with my mates. After prep we went to our hostel, did our night prayer and went to bed. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Apr 12, 2009       2 comments  

How do you spell love?… when you reach the point where the happiness, security, and development of another person is as much of a driving force to you as your own happiness, security, and development, then you have a mature love. True love is spelled G-I-V-E. It is not based on what you can get, but rooted in what you can give to the other person.
~Josh McDowell

Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you’re looking for in your life. It’s just one step away.

Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: “If only he would be nicer.” “Didn’t she know that would hurt my feelings?” “I would be happy if he would only talk to me more.”

When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.

What’s the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to “FIX” them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don’t change, YOU can’t be happy.

But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don’t like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.

Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.

This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.

And what you focus your attention on grows.

Perhaps you say something like this to them: “Can’t you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob.”

It’s probably not the first time you’ve talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?

The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don’t enjoy about your partner. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Apr 5, 2009       8 comments  

Have you ever noticed entrepreneurs who appear to become successful “overnight”? It’s a bit of a mystery, isn’t it; one day nobody knows who they are and the next day everyone’s talking about them. This is an interesting phenomenon that happens with entrepreneurs, but I assure you… the success rarely happens “overnight.” Granted, there may be an extremely small percentage of true overnight successes; but for most entrepreneurs it’s taken years to reach that level of achievement. How do I know? Because it’s been my personal journey.

What I want to share with you today, are the three key strategies that helped me get to this level of success in my business. For those of you who know me, or who have been following me for several years, these will sound familiar to you… but for those of you who are new to my teaching, my story and my business, get ready for an inside peek at what it really takes to become an “overnight” success.

1) Faith

Faith has been the single most important factor in my success. Now, you may be asking what I’m talking about when I refer to faith. First, let me say that, to me, faith has nothing to do with religion. My personal experience of faith is having the unwavering belief there is something much larger than myself that is helping me expand, grow, evolve and transform through every step of my journey… through the challenging times and the joyous times. Faith is your convincing belief of the greatness that lies within you. It’s knowing that (as Marianne Williamson says) you were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

2) Commitment (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Mar 26, 2009       3 comments  

I know that you might be wondering if i have fallen out of this planet,i have been very busy but i missed you all. Each time i want to post an article the damn internet is either slow or out kind of frustrating. I got this in my email and it cracked me up,i hope it makes you laugh too.

A Polish man moved to the USA and married an American girl..
Although his English was far from perfect, they got along very well..

One day he rushed into a lawyer’s office and asked him if he could arrange a
divorce for him.

The lawyer said that getting a divorce would depend on the
circumstances, and asked him the following questions:

Have you any grounds?
Yes, an acre and half and nice little home.

No, I mean what is the foundation of this case?
It made of concrete.

I don’t think you understand. Does either of you have a
real grudge?
No, we have carport, and not need one.

I mean. What are your relations like?
All my relations still in Poland

Is there any infidelity in your marriage?
We have hi-fidelity stereo and good DVD player.

Does your wife beat you up?
No, I always up before her.

Is your wife a nagger?
No, she white.
Why do you want this divorce?
She going to kill me.

What makes you think that?
I got proof.

What kind of proof?
She going to poison me. She buy a bottle at drugstore
and put on shelf in bathroom. I can read, and it say:
‘Polish Remover’

  Posted By tyna     Mar 25, 2009       5 comments  

Stress Management - Declutter your thoughts instead of your house a stress solution for life

When your stressed you often live with clutter. Clutter in your home, in your office, your car and your life. It may not be easy but it’s fairly simple to begin to declutter your environment. You select a room or area to declutter and begin to clear out the area by throwing things that are unusable and giving away items that are usable but you no longer need. The difficult part is to give up those items that you’re emotionally attached to. Clutter comes in all forms, from the never ending to do list, the messy bathroom to stress of holding onto a relationship that is literally destroying your mind.

But what about the mind. Clutter in the mind causes confusion, you may experience loss of energy and overwhelm. But you can’t throw out the mind or give it away because it’s usable but you no longer need it.

One way to declutter the mind is to simply write. That may seem oversimplified but it’s a fact. When you write about a stressful situation you not only record your thoughts but you defuse the stress. A stress journal is the perfect solution. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Feb 24, 2009       3 comments