It’s always easy to blame external circumstances when you get stopped ‘your manager, lack of time, traffic, a change in the market… But if anything really stops you short in life, it’s more likely to be a self-limiting belief: a thought about yourself, reinforced by emotion. An event occurred. You drew a conclusion about it and absorbed it emotionally. This is because people are ‘meaning-making’ machines; we try to give meaning to everything, even things we really know nothing about!

We all have our own rich and personal history of events - from parents, educators, our culture, gender and work experience - and, as a result, we’ve developed our own unique perspectives on the world and ourselves. Each of us creates a unique map of what the world is like and how we fit in to it. Before long, we’re on autopilot, with these now-subconscious beliefs guiding our actions in life. Many of these beliefs help to sustain us in life, but others don’t - they limit us and our ability to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

What About At Work?

When it comes to working life, it is our self-limiting beliefs which affect whether we are successful and the organisation we work in is a satisfying place to be. Here are some common self-limiting beliefs:

1. I am not skilled enough.

2. You can’t trust anybody.

3. Hard work is noble.

4. Fulfilling work is for others, not me.

5. Fulfilment comes from my personal life, not my work life.

6. I’m too old to make major changes to the way I work.

7. My family and friends will think I’m crazy.

8. I’m a fraud - my success is a result of the corporate structure.

9. The unknown isn’t safe.

10. I’m not sure that I can trust my decisions or choices.

11. I’m afraid of failing.

12. It’s a dog-eat-dog world.

Your beliefs stay with you for three primary reasons: (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Sep 1, 2008       3 comments  

If money cannot buy happiness and happiness does not come from just one thing, then where does happiness come from? First of all, happiness is not something you find outside of yourself. You cannot go look for happiness and find it somewhere. Nor can you simply just “decide” to be happy regardless of your circumstances. Happiness is more than just a mental state of mind that you can maintain by controlling your focus (although there are some who do believe that). Even though it is true that your thoughts can affect your level of happiness, they are not the only thing that can affect it. True happiness does not come from just one thing, not even just your thoughts. I believe that happiness is a positive state of well-being with many contributing factors. It is something that you grow inside of you.

What are the contributing factors? Amazingly, many of them we do not recognize immediately because our brains are programmed to focus on what will protect us from pain, discomfort, danger and other threats to our survival. We can easily overlook the “grass and flowers” in the field of life because we are too busy checking each area for landmines. We often do not realize how much something means to us until it is gone. Simarly, it is very common for us to be unaware of how much something contributes to our happiness unless it is missing. We often do not realize that the love and support we received from our parents as children including the happy memories, the fun, the birthdays, and everything else that was positive also contributed to our foundational emotional experiences that we are still building on today. But just talk to someone who did not have these things. They have a lot less on which to build in that area, and they usually recognize it. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 29, 2008       1 comment  

I got this email informing me about my account on Bank of America been hacked,this is another scam to get me give out my account information assuming that I actually have a Bank of American account. The Bank of America logo was included which can be very convincing to an unsuspected account holder. Funny enough I don’t have an account in the said bank. The hope of the scammers is that you will use the link in the email to check your account. Ironically, the phishing email may even warn you about the hazards of clicking the link, and instruct you to type it into the browser instead. Once you’ve logged onto their site (which has been carefully crafted to look like the legitimate bank or commerce site), the scammers capture your login credentials. Here is sample of the email scam on bank’s account.

Your account has been hacked !!!
From: Boa Online Banking (aw-verify@bankofamerica.com)

Sent: Thu 8/28/08 1:01 PM
Reply-to: aw-verify@bankofamerica.com
To:

We recently have determined that different computers have logged into your Online Banking account, and multiple password failures were present before the logons. We now need you to re-confirm your account information to us.

If this is not completed by August 28, 2008, we will be forced to suspend your account indefinitely, as it may have been used for fraudulent purposes. We thank you for your cooperation in this manner.

To confirm your Online Banking records click on the following link:

Thank you for your patience in this matter.

Bank of America Customer Service

Please do not reply to this e-mail as this is only a notification. Mail sent to this address cannot be answered.

2008 Bank of America, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

Help to stop the supply of these miscreant email by stopping the demand. Tell your friend, your mom, your dad, and anyone else you know about the hazards of email scams. Tell them that any email they received unexpectedly that instructs them to login to any account for any reason should be viewed with suspicion.

  Posted By tyna     Aug 28, 2008       3 comments  

These days, the Internet has gained an incredible worldwide popularity, thanks especially to the hundreds of money-making opportunities that cyberspace offers. With the rising cost of living, more and more people are turning to the Internet to earn income and bring home significant profit. If you want to be one of these people, you’d need to learn Internet marketing tips to help you stand a chance against the many others that are setting up businesses online.

Before you employ Internet marketing tips, you have to know what Internet marketing is. Internet marketing, which is also referred to as Internet advertising, online marketing, or e-marketing by some, is basically the marketing of products or services in the Internet. Internet marketing becomes Web advertising and Web marketing when it is applied to the subset of advertisement placements that are website-based. Many people choose to market online because the Internet brings lower costs for information and media distribution, and caters to a global audience. What’s more, the Internet hosts high interactivity that makes giving responses and eliciting responses fast and convenient. With great Internet marketing tips, you can fully utilize the Internet’s positive traits. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 27, 2008       3 comments  

Many of you will be busy preparing for your children’s return to school, but what about you? Why not treat yourself to some fancy new stationary and use it to write your goals for the rest of the year.

What many people don’t realise is that those people, who write their goals down, are over 300% more likely to see them come to fruition. Those who write them down and read them daily are 700%+ more likely to have them come true. So could you! Why not start today?

You probably know this already but we have just 127 days remaining in 2008!

A lot of people think that 127 days is too short to make a difference in their lives and that there’s no way they’ll hit all their targets and achieve their goals in that time, but I hope you know different.

You do, don’t you?

This time last year I was introduced to a system by a Personal Trainer called Dax Moy who called this his ‘magic 100’ and set me about from the very first day to get as many items checked off of my list as he could. This teaches you how to write up 100 goals that excite you, inspire you and give yourself only 100 days to complete them.

By the end of my first 100 days I had achieved 81 of my 100 goals and literally changed the entire course of my life in the process. Since that time my magic 100 has been a constant companion of mine. My magic hundred experience showed me what was possible when you consciously invest your time rather than merely spending it on irrelevant and unnecessary tasks. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 25, 2008       2 comments