I woke up early this morning too stressed and worried that i could not go back to sleep. Yes i do get like this on very rare occasions but the stress in this country is getting at me, well if you must know am in Nigeria right now. A country where the president is very sick and its a big secret among his people while his seat is left in vacuum. The cabinet members do as they want like sheep without a shepherd,where a bank MD can be caught with very huge amount of dollars without an official covering letter.Where state governor loot state funds at will and nobody blinks about it. Where you put your money in a bank and can not collect it probably because the bank manager has given out people’s money as loan to his friends and relative, where the bank managers live like kings. Where i can’t sleep now because my money in the bank and can not be returned to me which i need it urgently if you must know again am not asking the bank for a loan but my personal investment. Where you can’t be paid for services rendered and you can’t do anything about it. Where they value cheap services instead of quality ones, price comes before asking for quality of services. Where marriage vows means nothing anymore, infidelity has become the order of the day. Where divorce is a normal everyday thing caused by cheating husbands and wives,okay i know that happens every where in the world but then it is not the tradition of this country. Where gay people have taken over as if it is normal for a man or boy to behave and act as a female and nobody is saying or doing anything about it.Keeping quiet doesn’t make things go away.A place where kidnapping or should i say adult-napping if there is an word like that have  become a common occurrence ransoms are paid in millions of naira still the culprit go scot free. Where government negotiates with kidnappers and murderers and promise them amnesty instead of arresting and punishing them to teach others a lesson. Come to think of it where do these guys in the Niger delta region get their guns from? am thinking that they must have heavy backers, all these ranting will come as a surprise considering the fact that i dislike politics so much but i think there should a great change in the way things are done here. We keep talking everyday without doing anything about it,can we keep quiet for a second and think about how to bring about these changes we keep talking about? You guys know how i hate packing and moving but am so much looking forward to a move right now. I sit in traffic for hours everyday it is very painful i don’t make proper use of my own allocated 24 hours in a day. Photography has become boring because am asked to do the same things over and over again so when can someone or some people allow me to be my creative self? I started taking photographs at events at least to see different setting and people but that also is becoming boring too you see almost the same faces,comedians,performers everywhere i need something fresh and new.Where journalists publish or should i say don’t publish certain things about certain people for the fear of not either losing their jobs or even their lives.This is the only place one side of a story is published without investigating and finding out from the other side what really happened. Am so sick of reading papers where people talk about themselves as if they are a kind of demi god, if you use first class ticket to travel and sat at the first class lounge is that suppose to be news? Who cares where or what you went through to buy a dress that you can not wear more than once in public? Who cares if you have blings on you handset these are news in this country while serious issues from common people are not heard anywhere. I have stayed one year here and i think am an authority on the topic of fake people who only wants to be your friend based on what you have and not on who you really are. People who look right into your eyes and lies about every thing under the sun,they promise you heaven on earth,where people with genuine ideas can’t bring it to life because of lack of sponsors while stupid, useless,copied ideas get all the raves. If i have to move today i will gladly do it because am sick and tired of all these nonsense going around me it is more painful because i don’t really know how to bring a change,i tried as a person affecting one life at a time but it is not enough in a country with a whole lots of people. Where parents compare their good sons who haven’t made money yet to some criminals pushing them to become 419ers,drug pushers and so on. Am sick and tired of a country where criminals and ex-convicts can take governmental positions,where you can bribe your way out of anything $15million as bribe to sweep a case under the carpets yet i can’t be paid my small hard earned money that i lodged in the bank? Where federal land allocations are given to the same people who already owns the country,where the criminally rich get richer and the masses can barely feed despite working so hard all day. Where real journalists are beaten and roughed handled by bank officers and police officers for taking photographs of protesters.people do take photographs in Iraq everyday am i correct? Where you live in fear. Where everyone claims to be religious and evil abound everywhere.Where every dick,tom and harry has an NGO just to enrich themselves. I am having serious headache right now and i need to go to the bank as soon as they open their doors.

  Posted By tyna     Dec 15, 2009       2 comments  

This is an honest and sincere feelings written down in black and white please read to the end of it and then honestly tell me what you feel

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I went out today with my brothers and what I discovered is beyond a lot of people’s way of thinking.

After a long time, I allowed myself to go into the crowd and what I found out is simply amazing…

LIFE… We are as happy as exposed… I met different men from 30 to 50 years of age and it wowed me at what makes us happy as human… 50 percent of the crowd was money rich men who believed in a certain philosophy of happiness… It was in a bar with many people drinking… Some drank a lot of beer worth 60 percent of Nigerian earner’s salary but to my shock they looked so poor… I asked some men there if they were happy and YES they replied and out of curiosity I asked why because in my mind I see them as poor but the answer they gave me was amazing…

Mr Nnamdi said, I have a lovely wife, a beautiful daughter, a business that is flourishing, and a girlfriend that makes me laugh… It came as a shock to me the way he mentioned the girl friend word like it was the most normal thing to do in the world as a married man… But in the end… He is Happy…

Mr Chuks said… Well… I make money and can spend it when I want to so it makes me happy because it is not easy to do in this country…

A man to my right said… Yes I am happy… I have finished a lot of beers now and it makes me happy.

Hmmm… I said to my self, these guys really look happy… With such little accomplishment… Why am I not happy? Then it dawned on me that that as human… The amount of happiness we feel in our lifetime is simply the amount of want that we have… These men looked and sounded very happy today… But are they truly happy without the bottles of beer? It doesn’t really matter because they were happy!

SUCCESS… What do we understand by this word? I have met different people in this country and it is disappointing the answer they give when you ask them what the meaning of success is… Listen to their answers… I want to be a Rich man, I want to be able to do whatever I want, I want to be able to kick asses when I want to, I want to be like someone really wealthy… Hmmm… Truly not a lot of people die successful… A lot of men die rich but not successful… Most of them get carried away by the things of this world but let me try and explain… SUCCESS according to a good book is… KNOWING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE, GROWING TO REACH YOUR MAXIMUM POTENTIAL, AND SOWING SEEDS THAT BENEFITS OTHERS. Now thinking deep about this it makes the meaning of Success clearer… Indeed, A lot of people die rich but not everyone discover their purpose in life. Which means… Rich people are remembered for their money and sometimes Fame.. But Successful people are remembered for their Existence!

LOVE… So… Overrated especially to the human race… So divine its power that a lot of people die without knowing the meaning of it… So… What is love? The true answer is… NO ANSWER! It differs from people to people… Everybody gets a chance to experience it but not everyone hold on to it till eternity… As human the truth is… The only people who get the chance to experience real love are the ones who are so Selfless… Like JESUS or GOD… Love is so free that it takes itself away when people place a price tag on it.

PAIN… How does it begin…? It goes hand in hand with LOVE… The lose of love brings all pain in the world but the gain of Love take it all away… But the difference is… We cannot prevent or control who and what we love… But we can for Love… If we want to think deep about life, Pain and Love we might just realize how selfish we are… E.g.. Pain… When we loose someone we love either by Romance or death… We get consumed about ourselves… Well… Its human nature, but why do we inflict pain on our selves when a mother, brother, or any loved one dies after a long time of earthly pain? Do we for a second stop to put ourselves in their shoes to imagine the pains they were fighting? Do we give ourselves a chance to feel the inner peace of knowing that they have gone to a place where no pain exists? even if we miss them so much. Or Romance… Say someone breaks up with us… Damn, I know the feeling… Sometimes they leave due to our fault, or circumstance, or their own selfishness… Hmmm, I cant put my hands around this but… Do we for a second remember that no one is perfect? No..I cant do anything here as being selfish is no reason to loose someone to.

BEAUTY… To me beauty is a very special price that most importantly come from the inside… Damn I feel so good when now and then people come up to me and say “You are handsome”, “You are hot” and all these compliment :-)… Many times you see me, I’m either standing by the Mirror posing and making faces, making sure I don’t have my beard showing and a lot of people call me vain, but the truth is… No one really know the reflection that I’m seeing… Most of the time I look in the mirror i say to myself… Damn, My right eye look so different from the left or Wow… I still have not bought the car I thought I would at age 20, or If i am as good looking as people has made me to believe, Why am I still single? But in honestly… Physical beauty is just a thing you have Nothing more, Nothing less. The most important is the beauty you possess on the inside… Physical or Facial beauty fades out in time, Friends will get use to it that it becomes invisible. If it is all you have… What then is left if it is taken from you. My point is… You want to feel beautiful? Why not try and make someone else feel so special and beautiful see the way you’ll feel about yourself. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Oct 5, 2009       6 comments  

This is my story and my passion pictures are worth a thousand words.

If you have ever gotten a job, any job, you have a story to tell about how you got that job, how you came to be in that business, etc. The same is true of multilevel marketing. Everyone has a story of how they got started, who told them about the business, and how their life has changed. Sometimes your story is the only verbal contact you will have with someone, so you need to make it good!

While everyone may have a story, not everyone has mastered telling their story. Sometimes we get so excited about our business, they we want to tell absolutely EVERYTHING about what this business has done for us and what the business can do for them. Half an hour later our audience is either asleep, has put us on permanent hold (if we are on the phone), or is looking for a way to escape. Some of us try to make the story too short. “Well, a friend of mine called up one day and I signed up and it’s been great ever since!” No too inspirational. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Oct 3, 2009       1 comment  

Wait a Minute Here

I thought I might get some of you to take a second look. Let me explain.

Stressed out people are not productive People

There are many ways to get stressed out. I will just address one or two here, as they pertain to this topic. The heart of any attempt to get more done and be more productive lies in you investing time in planning, preparing and getting organized prior to expending any energy. When you add all of this preplanning activity up, it sounds suspiciously like thinking, doesn’t? So what is the catch?

Have you ever had a large task looming ahead of you? You know it’s coming, you dread it and you stress out about it. That is the kind of thinking that slows you down, makes you ineffective and negatively impacts your productivity. It is also the kind of thinking that separates the people who have a plan from those that do not. The planning process starts a long time before this dreaded large task is due. By putting your faith in your planning process, you can avoid this paralyzing fear that turns all of us into walking zombies.

The Bungee Cord Will Not Break, Trust Me

I’m not sure what posses people to jump off a bridge and plunge hundreds of feet and do this on the basis that someone told them that the cord that stops them from splattering into the cement will not break. That’s trust. That is the kind of faith and trust you have to have in the systems and policies you have put into place to operate by. When you have that kind of faith and trust, then you will not be in a position to fear large tasks looming in front t of you because you will have prepared yourself for their arrival and be well ahead of the curve.

I’m using a large task only as an example here. It could be any stress-or; a meeting, an appointment with a new client, a deadline for submitting a report, anything that causes you to think about it and then basically do nothing concrete about it.

Thinking About Something And Then Doing Nothing About It Is Worse Than Not Thinking At All

At least ignorance is bliss. Sometimes I almost admire the people who seem to be able to just drift through life without getting wound up or worked up about things, the way I seem to do. I’m not sure if being “On” all the time is the best way to go. I did mention that I admire them sometimes, didn’t I? (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Sep 30, 2009       1 comment  

These are some of the designs that i love there were a lot of them but can’t put all here.

I just got back from the New York fashion week on Sunday the 20th of September,my system is so disorganized can’t eat and can’t sleep at the normal time well what do i expect from going to a different part of the world with a 5 hours time difference. I was restless and my brain refuse to stay quiet then i started thinking.I gave it a serious thinking actually not that it was really hard to figure out that some people should stay the hell out of fashion designing there are so many things one can do in the fashion industry without being a designer. Most times i don’t write not because i don’t have what to write but if i have to write it must really be what i feel; recently i tried to be diplomatic not hurting anyone’s feelings i guess am really grown up now because that what grown ups do.I hate people who want the best things in life for free i honestly can’t understand it,does it make sense to you? I thought they say that there are no free lunch anywhere,in as much as i like helping people in need am not running a charitable organization my point being that if i decide to start one it will be a motherless babies home. There are a whole lot of kids out there who needs to be taken care of and i know that it will definitely not be a photographic charity home or studio that i will set up. I am actually sick and tired of all these people who don’t appreciate talent when they see one, as much as i love Nigeria i will gladly leave if the opportunity comes knocking again oh yes i mean that. I used to think that people here have matured in every aspect of their lives but they drive big cars and live in big houses just to show off. I am sick and tired of people coming late to everything don’t you guys have clocks,watches,phones and every other thing that have time attached to it. I am sick and tired of people who thinks that photography is all about buying a camera and clicking it please there are a whole lot to it, photography is an art.I am leaving again for a couples’ retreat in Cannes South of France oh! how i wish it was during the film festival would have been a blast. Guys i need your honest opinion do you think that i have what it takes to be a good photographer? Let me try to catch some sleep.

  Posted By tyna     Sep 21, 2009       2 comments