Oh, Woe Is Me…
I’ll bet you have at least one friend, acquaintance, colleague or spouse that is chronically miserable, gloomy and cheerless. Regardless of whom it is this person has something to complain about every single day.
Correct?
Or perhaps, the “friend” above is you…if so, it’s okay to admit to it!
Maybe you are going through some tough times. Tough times, challenges and obstacles are all part of life and growing as a human being. In fact, they are a law of the universe in which we exist!
However, my experience indicates that it is typically those who have it “all” that are far more miserable than those that have little in the way of finances, possessions or other trappings of the “silver spoon” life. These types of people are so wrapped up and absorbed in protecting against the loss of their material possessions they completely ignore their own personal development and growth - and hence, regress physically, mentally and spiritually.
Let’s look at a week-long snapshot to illustrate my point. By the way, these are all real-world examples. Yes, unfortunately I was there to witness them.
For example, on Monday the “friend / work colleague” may have been ranting and raving and sounding like a broken record, over the latest “Somebody Did Me Wrong” that happened over the weekend. And on the flip side of the recording is their other hit song, “Oh, Woe Is Me…”
On Tuesday, it was the weather - too hot, too cold, too sunny, too windy… arrgh!
Wednesday, the conversation began with a dissertation about every little ache, pain, and paper cut. Or that they are too tired.
On Thursday, they were angry at the world spewing venom and profanities at every person they came in contact with - the stereotypical “finger flippin’, horn honkin’, road rager” comes to mind.
And, on Friday, they now believe that the world and everyone in it, is out to get them - look out for the tears! They constantly play the role of “victim” and blame everyone else but them self for their misery, negative thoughts and emotional outbursts - of course, all self inflicted.
Thank god for the weekend!
How can these types of people ever have any positive energy left to be motivated to achieve what they want in life? Let alone productively function from day to day?
Well, the truth is that they can’t due to their lack of self control and self mastery. And, there is nothing that uses up vital energy as quickly as a lack of self control and self mastery. Having used up their vital energies, the emotional, irritable person can not concentrate, nor focus on a single thought.
And it builds from there. The miserable, irritable person is not magnetic. He / she is not admired or loved or fun to be around. And he does not develop those finer qualities that a person of success possesses. He creates a chasm between himself and others. And, therefore is not able to enlist others in helping him to reach his goals and dreams.
In addition, anger, sarcasm and rage weaken a person in this direction. The person that allows himself to get into any of these negative states of mind will eventually cause health problems, career problems, relationship problems, not only for themselves, but for the people they interact with.
If you currently resemble this person, what must you do? You must learn to harness your power of concentration that will lead to self mastery. When your mind can properly concentrate, all the vital energy of every bodily cell is directed into one channel generating a powerful personal influence.
Every one of us, even you, is made up of 10-trillion cells. Each one of these has a center where life and energy are generated and stored up. If this energy is not conserved and controlled, but instead wasted, you can not become more productive and influential.
Remember that the scattered rays of the sun, when focused by a magnifying glass, produce a heat many times greater than the sun’s rays alone. This is also true of your ability to concentrate on positive outcomes and taking action toward them. If your attention is not focused you get ordinary results. But center and focus it on your goals, instead of wasting it on useless complaining, and your motivation and growth will be strong and limitless.
Every action, no matter how big or small, defines everything that you achieve in life. Don’t waste your valuable energy on anything less.
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Keith A. Shaw, is an authority on motivation, success, qigong, self improvement, health and happiness. For more “secret recipes” on how to win at any game, no matter how challenging, see my website at http://www.mindbodyspiritcentral.com to order my Powerful Motivation and Success Systems.
Posted By tyna 
Sep 16, 2008 
I hear you! I cannot stand the woe is me person. At one point I was surrounded by them but I learned to distance myself from them because negative vibes brings more negative vibes!
I stand firm that everything you do counts no matter right or wrong it defines who you are.
No one has time to play pity party with woe is me people!!!!
good blog
Zanade Mann
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it’s only commonsensical to avoid such ones.
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Cheers! Sandra. R.