I’ll bet you have at least one friend, acquaintance, colleague or spouse that is chronically miserable, gloomy and cheerless. Regardless of whom it is this person has something to complain about every single day.

Correct?

Or perhaps, the “friend” above is you…if so, it’s okay to admit to it!

Maybe you are going through some tough times. Tough times, challenges and obstacles are all part of life and growing as a human being. In fact, they are a law of the universe in which we exist!

However, my experience indicates that it is typically those who have it “all” that are far more miserable than those that have little in the way of finances, possessions or other trappings of the “silver spoon” life. These types of people are so wrapped up and absorbed in protecting against the loss of their material possessions they completely ignore their own personal development and growth - and hence, regress physically, mentally and spiritually.

Let’s look at a week-long snapshot to illustrate my point. By the way, these are all real-world examples. Yes, unfortunately I was there to witness them.

For example, on Monday the “friend / work colleague” may have been ranting and raving and sounding like a broken record, over the latest “Somebody Did Me Wrong” that happened over the weekend. And on the flip side of the recording is their other hit song, “Oh, Woe Is Me…”

On Tuesday, it was the weather - too hot, too cold, too sunny, too windy… arrgh!

Wednesday, the conversation began with a dissertation about every little ache, pain, and paper cut. Or that they are too tired.

On Thursday, they were angry at the world spewing venom and profanities at every person they came in contact with - the stereotypical “finger flippin’, horn honkin’, road rager” comes to mind.

And, on Friday, they now believe that the world and everyone in it, is out to get them - look out for the tears! They constantly play the role of “victim” and blame everyone else but them self for their misery, negative thoughts and emotional outbursts - of course, all self inflicted.

Thank god for the weekend!

How can these types of people ever have any positive energy left to be motivated to achieve what they want in life? Let alone productively function from day to day?

Well, the truth is that they can’t due to their lack of self control and self mastery. And, there is nothing that uses up vital energy as quickly as a lack of self control and self mastery. Having used up their vital energies, the emotional, irritable person can not concentrate, nor focus on a single thought.

And it builds from there. The miserable, irritable person is not magnetic. He / she is not admired or loved or fun to be around. And he does not develop those finer qualities that a person of success possesses. He creates a chasm between himself and others. And, therefore is not able to enlist others in helping him to reach his goals and dreams. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Sep 16, 2008       4 comments  

Contrast is a part of life as we are on a path of continual growth and expansion. The Universe is in a state of constant expansion and that is how it is supposed to be.

Look at your own life for a moment and see the contrast of where you are now to where you were 5 years ago. Even where you were 6 months ago. Notice any contrast from now to then?

The truth is, as you grow and expand, you are taking your life to a new level in the way you feel and the reality you experience. Would you ever turn back the clock to live back where you used to be? I doubt it. You are on a path of growth and of taking your life to wonderful new places it has never been before. Whether that’s internal in the way you feel or external shown in the experiences in your life.

So contrast is a part of life, but more than that, it can be used as a powerful tool to take you higher, to move you forward into the life you are creating for yourself.

I’m sure you have some intentions for your life. Think of one of them now, maybe you want to have your ideal body. We’ll use that as an example, lets say you don’t take very good care of your body and you would like to lose some weight and feel better about your body.

Your intention is strong, you are visualizing your body as you want it to be, imagining how it would feel to have that body. How you would be so confident, feel great physically, work out often, eat healthy foods. How great that would feel you imagine.

You are motivated for a bit, go for a walk, work out, start to eat healthier, then what tends to happen?

Suddenly one day you don’t feel like going for a walk. You start craving things you know your body doesn’t really want. You start to feel down and discouraged.

This is normal! (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Sep 15, 2008       0 Comments  

It’s always easy to blame external circumstances when you get stopped ‘your manager, lack of time, traffic, a change in the market… But if anything really stops you short in life, it’s more likely to be a self-limiting belief: a thought about yourself, reinforced by emotion. An event occurred. You drew a conclusion about it and absorbed it emotionally. This is because people are ‘meaning-making’ machines; we try to give meaning to everything, even things we really know nothing about!

We all have our own rich and personal history of events - from parents, educators, our culture, gender and work experience - and, as a result, we’ve developed our own unique perspectives on the world and ourselves. Each of us creates a unique map of what the world is like and how we fit in to it. Before long, we’re on autopilot, with these now-subconscious beliefs guiding our actions in life. Many of these beliefs help to sustain us in life, but others don’t - they limit us and our ability to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

What About At Work?

When it comes to working life, it is our self-limiting beliefs which affect whether we are successful and the organisation we work in is a satisfying place to be. Here are some common self-limiting beliefs:

1. I am not skilled enough.

2. You can’t trust anybody.

3. Hard work is noble.

4. Fulfilling work is for others, not me.

5. Fulfilment comes from my personal life, not my work life.

6. I’m too old to make major changes to the way I work.

7. My family and friends will think I’m crazy.

8. I’m a fraud - my success is a result of the corporate structure.

9. The unknown isn’t safe.

10. I’m not sure that I can trust my decisions or choices.

11. I’m afraid of failing.

12. It’s a dog-eat-dog world.

Your beliefs stay with you for three primary reasons: (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Sep 1, 2008       5 comments  

Many of you will be busy preparing for your children’s return to school, but what about you? Why not treat yourself to some fancy new stationary and use it to write your goals for the rest of the year.

What many people don’t realise is that those people, who write their goals down, are over 300% more likely to see them come to fruition. Those who write them down and read them daily are 700%+ more likely to have them come true. So could you! Why not start today?

You probably know this already but we have just 127 days remaining in 2008!

A lot of people think that 127 days is too short to make a difference in their lives and that there’s no way they’ll hit all their targets and achieve their goals in that time, but I hope you know different.

You do, don’t you?

This time last year I was introduced to a system by a Personal Trainer called Dax Moy who called this his ‘magic 100’ and set me about from the very first day to get as many items checked off of my list as he could. This teaches you how to write up 100 goals that excite you, inspire you and give yourself only 100 days to complete them.

By the end of my first 100 days I had achieved 81 of my 100 goals and literally changed the entire course of my life in the process. Since that time my magic 100 has been a constant companion of mine. My magic hundred experience showed me what was possible when you consciously invest your time rather than merely spending it on irrelevant and unnecessary tasks. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 25, 2008       2 comments