This is a continuation of the last post by Chinedu (here )you like to read that first for better understanding of the situation at hand.You advice is highly needed,well in the comment section.

One day like that after the barber finishing barbing my hair I went to the tap to wash my hair, but since water wasn’t rushing. I went toward my hostel to go and change to my check. Then Mr. Johnson (navy man) came and told every one should come to him and line up and started giving everyone three each with his military belt, that time I wasn’t wearing anything on top and after he gave me three, that is when the koboko came. He was flogging us because it was time for afternoon prep and we did not hear the bell. But the boys that had marks on their back that were not wearing top went to report to XO (Executive Officer, Uncle Kelvin’s mate) she told us to go to the sick bay for treatment.
Another one was the one that I told you about the nail that cut my arm. It was not a nail, it was a navy man called “red army” that did it to me. I was busy washing my clothes and then everyone started running away; I started wondering what was happening, so I ran to. Then red army caught some people hiding, including me, I told us to hang (legs on the wall and hands on the ground) and I was the first person he floged with one big cane on my arm and back, both places were bleeding seriously. I reported to the sickbay and lied that it was a nail that caused it, because I didn’t want trouble with that red army again, and that was when the commandant came to the sickbay.
Stealing is a common thing in this school if you lock your locker, at night seniors will start jacking and breaking padlocks and steal one of your belongings and they will leave your locker open, or if you leave your school bag in the class and then someone will come to your class and then steal your notebook or something else they interested in.
In this school, you have to give and if you are a stingy person and you don’t like giving. Everyone will start fixing you (navy slang: focusing, disturbing you) and will hate you, they might take your clothes and burn them and start stealing your belongings. Plus if seniors are focusing on you, they might do the worst things for you.
When we are in class and the teacher is not around, my classmates start making noise and running around. And then a navy man or teacher will start punishing the whole class or will cane all of us. When one teacher gives us something to do and she counts to a certain number, for us to submit, and if you don’t submit during the count he/she wouldn’t accept your work. If you are coming back from break and you enter the class after the teacher, he/she will tell you to stay outside until the period is over.
Some of my seniors and mates ask me where I am from and tell them about my family, and then they ask me whether I like this school and I answer “no.” After, they asked me whether I want to transfer and I answer “yes,” then they said I should tell my parents that I don’t like this school and I want to transfer, because I don’t fit in this school.

  Posted By tyna     Apr 13, 2009       8 comments  

Happy Easter! I hope you are all having fun.You all remember my son Chinedu if you don’t you might like to check his essays on this (blog).We got to Nigeria and sent him to school and never knew that he was going through emotional and physical torture in that school,this wasn’t the first school under one year the first one isn’t worth wasting my valuable time to write about not minding the huge sum of money we paid that was not refunded after he spent only two weeks there.We are trying to give him the best but after these two schools am going to try once more with fingers crossed that i will nail it this time. Read his experience written by him and advice me on what i should do about what he went through, i happen to know about this during this Easter holidays,what actions should i take when school resumes?

It began when I was in the car and as I was entering the school. I read “Nigerian Navy Secondary School” “Hard work and Discipline.” That is when I knew that it wouldn’t be easy staying in this school.
As I was writing my names on my property, my school father whose name was senior Basheri who was in SSS3 explained to me that I have to be wise in this school, that this school is very different from other schools.
When I finished, we went for prep, on the way we met a tall senior wearing spec (which I later knew that he is the senior prefect). He brought out his hand between senior Basheri and I, and nothing happened for a few seconds, so I brought my hand to shake his hand. Then he said “Who the f*** are you? After senior Basheri told him who I was and I told him my name. The tall senior told me that I better be careful in this school, as soon as the senior left I started crying. Senior Basheri asked me why I was crying, then I answered that I was scared of seniors.
It was time for prep and senior Basheri took me to the hall to go and prep with my mates. After prep we went to our hostel, did our night prayer and went to bed. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Apr 12, 2009       2 comments  

How do you spell love?… when you reach the point where the happiness, security, and development of another person is as much of a driving force to you as your own happiness, security, and development, then you have a mature love. True love is spelled G-I-V-E. It is not based on what you can get, but rooted in what you can give to the other person.
~Josh McDowell

Would you like to be 100% happier than you are now? How about 1,000% happier? What stands between you and having greater happiness now? Read on to see how you can discover the happiness you’re looking for in your life. It’s just one step away.

Have you ever noticed how often people rely on others in their pursuit of happiness? How they expect someone else to make them happy? You might hear people say things like: “If only he would be nicer.” “Didn’t she know that would hurt my feelings?” “I would be happy if he would only talk to me more.”

When people have this idea in their head they can spend a lot of time figuring out how to fix or change other people.

What’s the trouble if you try this strategy? Not only do the other people feel irritated, they often get defensive at your attempt to “FIX” them. And it leaves you powerless. If THEY don’t change, YOU can’t be happy.

But even more important is that, since what you focus your attention on grows, focusing on what you don’t like will cause it to become what you notice most in your life.

Say, for example, when your significant other comes home they often leave a trail with their clothes, bags, books, whatever, strewn throughout the house. It drives you nuts! Every time you look at the residue of stuff they leave behind them, you feel irritated.

This has gone on for so long that now you notice every little piece of debris, everywhere you look, all the time.

And what you focus your attention on grows.

Perhaps you say something like this to them: “Can’t you pick up after yourself? You are such a slob.”

It’s probably not the first time you’ve talked about the clothes on the floor. And probably not much has changed since that first time. So what happens next?

The person leaving the clothes around probably gets annoyed at being told what to do. You lose hope that things will ever change. And you focus more and more on what you don’t enjoy about your partner. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Apr 5, 2009       8 comments