We have finally moved to our house and have been trying to settle down.It have been so hectic for me to handle everything alone well! am surviving. You haven’t heard from me for a long time because of the internet connection here which have been very erratic,i got another one now so hopefully everything is under control. Staying without internet has been like hell for me,Tom asked me in my post if i like or dislike South Korea,well now i would say i liked it there especially with this internet stress. So be ready to hear from me often,my bestfriend is away in Manchester for a course. Akpo project have arrived Nigeria,we all thank God for it’s safe arrival.For everyone that have been sending emails and comments about Akpo project i will answer them as soon as possible but if you don’t know anything about Akpo Project you can find everything about it here. Another major stress that am having is taking care of three boys under 5 years and as well as starting a new business in a new environment.As you all know i thrive under stress,my business is starting off on a good note and i am so excited that i have to stop here in order to finish some paper work for a presentation that is coming up.I missed you all and will love to hear about what you have been doing lately.
That fear you feel before doing something new or different can seem overwhelming at times, in fact it stops some people dead in their tracks. However it affects you, experiencing emotional distress from fear is painful and actually physically damaging. Did you know that the fear mechanism is only designed to be for a very brief period, but when we allow ourselves to remain in a fear mode for and extended time our body is actually getting damaged? So if you want to move your life forward and keep your health managing these fears is advisable. Your personal growth is an ongoing process and part of self-discovery is finding what about your life you don’t want and then to making the small changes to support what you do want.
In acting they teach actors and actresses to channel their fear. It’s not that that many don’t have it, but it’s how they have learned to handle it. Many who perform live or speak in from of large groups are nervous every time before they do. But rather than letting this stop them they are able to channel the energy in the fear towards what they are doing. This actually transfers that heightened energy you notice with fear thoughts into their performance or presentation. Have you ever noticed that some performers seem to have a different ‘personality’ off stage than they do when they are performing? Many are quiet and reserved when talked to away from a performance, but when on stage they come alive with energy and boldness. I wonder where that comes from - re-directed fear perhaps. (more…)
Receivers/Takers: Takers take and keep. Receivers receive and share. If you take, there is no sharing and the energy dissipates to nothing, so even the taker has nothing. When you receive, you are open and receptive; open to the universe and the light to disperse to others, so everyone has everything.
There’s a story that Ronald Reagan used to tell about two little boys. One who is a pessimist and the other who is an optimist. The pessimist, when placed in a room full of toys is unhappy and continues to whine and cry. The optimist, when given a shovel and placed in a room full of horse manure, is happy. Asked why he’s digging away so happily, he responds: “If there’s this much of this stuff here, there’s got to be a pony somewhere!”
The pessimist takes without ever feeling happy or satisfied. In contrast, the optimist’s hope is contagious and spreads light to all whom it touches. Do you really believe it’s better to give than receive? For a moment, remember your childhood. While you loved receiving gifts at the holidays or on your birthday, remember how you waited in anticipation for someone to open the gift you gave them? As an adult, especially if you have children, aren’t you more concerned about seeing them happy with your gifts as opposed to worrying about what they give you? Your gift is the gift of their joy when they are truly happy about what you have given.
Challenge: Tighten in your hand into a closed fist. As long as your hand is closed, you can no longer receive anything. In fact, the harder you try to hang on to something, the more likely it is that your hand will become fatigued and that you will actually lose it. Now, open your fist and cup your hand. Next, pour a glass of water over your cupped hand. Your hand receives the water, but then it runs out of your hand allowing fresh water to take its place. Which would you rather drink? Water that has been trapped in your hand for days or fresh water that continuously flows? (more…)
An individual who feels genuinely valued will go to the extra distance for the person or scenario responsible for creating this uplifting sensation. Effectively-communicated appreciation is a win/win scenario in every respect. Yet many of us neglect this fundamental key to fun, healthy, burgeoning relationships?
What better time than near Thanksgiving to explore appreciation, gratitude and the rewards of a well-placed “Thank you? ”
To more fully understand it’s impact, think of the result of not feeling valued. This happens in relations across the board—partnerships, marriages, parent/child, best friends. Divorcees often tell me: “I no longer felt appreciated or valued, so I was no longer engaged in making our relationship work.”
Appreciation is a simple thing. It doesn’t take more time. The key is to have it be a way of living, not merely a tool to pull out when convenient and, secondly, communicate it in a way that is heard.
Showing authentic appreciation to someone in a manner in which they really ‘get it’ is a true art. Here are what I believe to be the crucial elements. (more…)
We’re entering into the Harvest Season, so whether you are anticipating a loving holiday celebration soon, or thankful over challenges that you’re processing, some thought provoking quotes on ‘gratitude’ and ’self-restraint’ may be your ticket to success.
At the very least, if you pick one of the following quotes to ponder over the coming few days it will send you into your Thanksgiving celebration with a new attitude, perhaps one of kindness, acceptance, and yes, appreciation. Let go of any mishaps of the past. This is a brand new celebration.
Gratitude
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schweitzer
Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful. Buddha
Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. Cicero
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. William James
Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul. Henry Ward Beecher (more…)
Posted By tyna 
Oct 29, 2008 
