See if this sounds familiar.

It’s halfway through the year. Time for a goal review. No surprises - in good shape on some, and hitting the Wall on the tough one or two. Unfortunately, those one or two always include really important stuff. They’re goals that have to be met. And yet, every time a certain point is reached this Wall gets in the way. It’s a Wall you can’t see, it’s built of things like fear of failure, fear of unworthiness, fear of lack of ability, fear of fear, lack of resources and commitment - things that keep accomplishment from occurring.

The Wall and worthy goals go together. Sometimes it’s so tempting to set easy - to - reach standards of performance. But setting goals that don’t demand stretch means accepting the status quo - the great demon of progress and success.

Notice how the Wall only appears on the truly important, demanding, stretch goals? The goals that spell real progress, real success and real accomplishment? The Wall saves itself for the really important things.

Talk to any championship athlete in any endurance sport about the Wall. Some describe it’s effect as being hit by a fist, others describe it as an irresistible force - hard to define, but even harder to move through. Every athlete has experienced it - the top ones have somehow fought through. And at the end of their challenge they are changed people - they have a sense of their capabilities that they did not have before. They have used their goal to go from hope to belief to a level of personal confidence they never knew existed.

Talk to a Navy SEAL who has endured their training and succeeded in graduating, and you will talk to a person who has found new limits to their physical and mental endurance. And they know they can go longer and further with less than they had ever imagined. They know their mental toughness made the difference - even the best conditioned will fail without the ability to keep their heads down and take one more step. One more step toward their goal. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 21, 2008       1 comment  

Your perception creates your reality. What you see is what you get. Or should I say how you choose to see determines what you get.

There is a great quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer that says - “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”. I believe that quote sums the message of this article up perfectly.

Whatever you focus on expands. If you meet someone and decide to focus on their negative or unattractive qualities, then you will begin to notice more and more negative and unattractive qualities. If, however, you meet someone and choose to focus on their positive and attractive qualities you will notice more of their attractive qualities, and they will suddenly become a very attractive person to you.

It is our choice how we choose to see and perceive things. We always get to choose how we see a person, place or a situation. Our perception determines our experience.

Life is all about perception. If you look at a homeless person, for example, and you think to yourself ‘how disgusting’, ‘he/she is so dirty’,'why don’t they get a job, like everyone else’, ‘what a loser’, etc……..

Then you will see a filthy disgusting person that is below you.

If you look at that same homeless person, and you think to yourself, ‘I send that person love’, ‘I pray that they find food today’, ‘I wonder what situation occurred in their life to put them there’, ‘How may I serve that person’, ‘I admire their peacefulness’, ‘I respect their humanity’, ‘I am one with their spirit’, etc……

Then all of a sudden they look completely different to you.You see their inner beauty, you respect them as your brother/sister, you see their humanity, you feel empathy and compassion, you see that beautiful Soul as one with yourself.

When you change the way you look at people, places or circumstances in your life, they will change. It is your choice if you want to see through fear and anger or see through love and compassion. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 18, 2008       4 comments  

While going through the horror of waiting for a flight at the Newark Airport,the one i wrote about in my post travel nightmare;we met this strange woman with whom i had a strange conversation.I took notice of the woman because of her large backside,i used to think that i was well endowed in that department until i met this woman to worsen her case she is flat chested. Enough about her physical attributes that is not the purpose of this post,she started talking with us in the process of the discussion i mentioned that i was tired of moving from one country to another because of my husband’s job. She replied that she loves moving with her husband,assuming that her husband works in an organization that enables them to move about i then asked her where her husband works,she told me that actually her husband exports goods from Canada.I wondering if she has to moving with the exported goods in the cargo or what? She started this topic about how she have to travel every week for work that she leaves on mondays to return on thursdays;i asked her again what do you do for a living? She then told us that she is an IT consultant,well that was when i knew that she is strange come to think of it any person that can use a computer can claim to be an IT consultant besides she was excited to inform us about a new social network that she just discovered, guess which one? Facebook in july 2008 and she is an IT consultant? She started telling us about how much she hates staying in a hotel and that she always go with her own towel and bed sheet that is very strange indeed.In the hotel that she usually marks the hotel bed sheet to make sure that they were changed,or she will sleep on the couch.As per towel she rather use her dirty clothes to dry her body after having a bath than use the towel provided by the hotel.At this point my husband stood up and left us he couldn’t bear it any longer. She is indeed a strange character,one of many that i have come to meet in my life time.As we got to Toronto airport one of the custom ladies asked us if we have Canadian visa,well i said yes while wondering how we could have gotten there without a visa, very strange question indeed.

  Posted By tyna     Aug 15, 2008       3 comments  

So what is competition? Many people consider it the chance to beat someone else’s brains in. To show that they are better than the other guy. Some companies today do all that they can to crush the competition. They buy them up or force them out. And of course it’s their right to do such things. But really where would we be if we didn’t have some competition?

Look at IBM for example. For decades they were the big guy. Hell they were nicknamed big blue of all things. And they felt they were invincible. Then one day during the 1990’s they found that they weren’t really that invincible. They’d lost their edge and were on the verge of bankruptcy. The little guys that they used to swat like flies had grown up. Companies like Apple Computer, Dell, and many others. IBM was saved but only in the nick of time. Today they are stronger than they have ever been. But now they respect their competition.

Companies like Target and Costco while not as big and mighty as Wal-Mart survive and thrive. They keep Wal-Mart on its toes each and every day. And even though Wal-Mart is great at giving us low prices many of the other things they do aren’t so great. Costco has average employee wages that are twice what Wal-Mart’s are. And Target offers a great selection of merchandise in stores that are usually cleaner and much easier to shop in. Are any of them perfect at what they do no. But because their competition is always intense consumers benefit with better products, better prices, and better service. (more…)

  Posted By tyna     Aug 14, 2008       3 comments  

My friends Tom and Kim Sawyer are going to become a first time parents today,I can relate to the anxiety that have been building up in their home recently. Tom started a new blog Proud2parent just to let us know what they have been doing in preparation for their baby’s arrival. Both parents agreed to name their baby K,that is strange but according to Tom it was his mother’s wish that every girl child born in their family should have a name starting with the letter K. The name just reminds me of kellogs special K cereal,well she is their kid and they have every right to call her whatever name they fancy.It was like yesterday when i was expecting my first child,i can remember the whole thoughts going through my mind then.I wondered if i will be a good mother,will i be able to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of my my child? Will i mistakenly suffocate my kid if i sleep on the same bed with my new born? How will i change his diaper since i haven’t done it before? Will my child be normal? will his hearing and other things be functioning well? How will i bathe a tender child without hurting him?

Tom and Kim there is nothing to worry about being a parent comes naturally before you know it you are the best parents for your kid.Taking care of a baby girl is far easier than taking care of a baby boy that’s my opinion. Good luck to both parents. 

  Posted By tyna     Aug 14, 2008       1 comment