“A moment of conscious triumph makes one feel that after nothing will really matter; a moment of realised disaster makes one feel that this is the end of everything. But neither feeling is realistic, for neither event is really what it felt to be.” Seeing part of your vision fall flat really hurts. We all have our shares of success and failures. Some people when they achieve a little success, the rush of achievement make them think that they have arrived. If you check all successful people don’t stop with their first achievement but they continued working, researching and learning new ways to improve themselves that is what has set them apart from other people that are doing the same things in the same way too. It is your level of commitment to what you are doing that counts most not your interest or passion. For you to be successful in any business, you have to see it as a business.
I started playing golf the same day as my husband but he is a much better golfer than me. It is not because he is a man and not because the number of days that he practice. He is better because of his level of commitment; interest is like a golfer (me) who practices to get the shot
right; while commitment is the golfer (my husband) who practices not to ever miss a shot.
Some people the fear of failure, stops them from trying anything to that might lead to failure. Constant fear divides the mind and causes a person to lose focus. The worst danger anyone can face is the danger of being paralyzed by doubts and fears. A person can fall many times, but won’t be a failure until he starts to blame it on other people, by saying that they pushed him down.
Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up. It knows that it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning a lion wakes up, it knows that it must outrun the slowest gazelle or it will starve to death. It doesn’t matter whether you are a lion or a gazelle: when the sun comes up you had better be running. If you want to succeed, remember that there’s not much difference between success and failure. Here is the good news if you are willing to be doggedly persistent, you can be a success too.
“If you faint in the days of adversity, your strength is small.”

  Posted By tyna     May 6, 2008       1 comment  

I wrote this article sometime ago before my web log crashed.
I felt I should repeat. It was about an article from Alex Shalman
about this Happiness project
where he asked everyone to join in the writing project by answering 5 questions about happiness
in your own perspective. You can try out it is very uplifting like a spiritual awareness; check the guides
on how you can be part of this great project:

How do you define happiness?
Happiness to me is the choices we make in life, and I believe that it is a matter of ones decision.
Happiness is marrying my best friend and be able to find a balance in our lives despite the fact that we are totally opposite in many ways. He is a very routine and organised person, I can almost predict his every move, while I like variety, adventure and I taking a lot of risks. Where he is agitated, am always calm. I always believe that things we work out fine. We are able to love ourselves unconditionally.
Happiness is having a happy home for my kids, being able to give my kids everything they deserve to be better people in the future. Happiness is earning money doing what I love. Happiness is being able to find something good in other people. Happiness is travelling around the world without worrying where the cash is coming from. Happiness is giving my work all my best and believing in me.
Happiness is waking up every morning close to the person who cares & supports me.
Happiness is God lifting me up to a stable and a higher ground.
Happiness is knowing that I can touch someone in a positive way.
Happiness is having the ability to choose to dwell on what I have, and not on, what I don’t have.
Happiness is sitting down and writing about these happy thoughts.
Happiness to me is that you are reading this today.

On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your happiness now versus when you were a child?
I will go with 9-5; this one was a bit difficult because I don’t know if this includes my teenage years.
Well whatever I am a very happy person now compare to my childhood. My father was very strict and I had to study always.
Growing up wasn’t much fun, but it made me a better person now.
What do you do on a daily basis that brings you happiness? (And how consistent is, the feeling
of happiness, through out your day?)
Preparing my kids for school every morning although very hectic, it is a source of happiness to me. To know that these kids are depending on me. I walk them to school while singing my favourite songs to them, like “this is the day that the lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it”.
I feel happy through out the day till about 7pm when I have to feed my 3 kids who are 5years dinner, that’s when I feel less happy but when the meal is over. We have our little after dinner song “if you are happy and you know clap hands” after that they have their drinks and we are all good again till bed time.

What things take away from your happiness? What can be done to lessen their impact or remove them from your life?
Negative destructive thoughts, will I be able to achieve all that I dream of? Are these my goals/dreams realistic?
This can be lessening or removed from my life if and only when I completely focus on my potentials and believing that nothing is impossible.
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What do you plan on doing in the future that will bring you even more happiness?
I will add a strong work ethics to my talents to set myself aside from others in my field.
To be one of the world’s top photographers
Starting my own clothing line.
To showcase my cloth line in all the major fashion show.
Appearing on, CNN art of life.
Vacationing in the Caribbean; with my husband, away from work and kids.
To help as many people as possible achieve their dreams.
Adopting a baby girl and giving her a chance of being loved.

  Posted By tyna     May 5, 2008       11 comments  

1. I learnt that life catches us off guard at times.Those times that i find myself in doubt,afraid,and confused.When it feels like there is war waging in my mind.Those times i realised that i can keep going long after I thought that I couldn’t handle it anymore.
2. I learnt never to compare myself to others because winners compare their achievements with their goals,while losers compare their achievements with those of other people.
3. I learnt that maturity has little to do with age but everything to do with the types of experiences that i have had and what i was able to learn from them.Like realising that your friends can hurt you once in awhile.
4. I learnt that my  life can change in a matter of hours by people who doesn’t know me.Your family won’t always be there for you and that meeting my husband was a turning point in my life.I learnt how to trust people again because of his care and love.
5. I learnt that no matter how much i blame the influence of my background and circumstance on making me who i am that i am responsible for who i choose to become.I should be ready to take responsibility for what i do,no matter how it makes me feel.
6. I learnt that making the decision of being nice in order not to hurt other people’s feelings and standing firm on what i believe can be very tricky.I am a very blunt person,i say things the way i see or feel it but as times go on i realised that am hurting some people’s feeling.These days even when i know that someone is lying to me or just trying to compete with me i just keep quiet.I try to avoid letting them know how foolish they are.Silence is the best answer for a fool.
7. I learnt that to always be a first rate version of myself instead of a second rate version of someone else.The reason why i don’t compete with anyone,i believe that i am the best that i can be.
8. I learnt that there are two things to aim in life: first to get what you want,and after that to enjoy it.Only wise people achieve the second.I have the choice to control my destiny and to be happy.
9. I learnt that there is no point in worrying about things that you can not change.Worrying is using your imagination to create something you do not want.Why not use your imagination to dream big dreams.
10. I learnt that if you can not find happiness in yourself don’t bother looking because it is impossible to find it elsewhere.I can go on but i would love  you to contribute from your own experience.

  Posted By tyna     May 4, 2008       1 comment  

This is just to show you where the kids in my block,keep their bikes after a ride in the park. I couldn’t resist taking a photo when I saw the beautiful colours from the different bicycles.If we could take a little time each day to look around ,we will begin to appreciate the beautiful things that are around us.Little children playing in the playground,some learning to ride their tricycles for the first time.I still remember the first time I took my twins to the playground.The joy of seeing them running around on their unsteady thiny feet,the falling and the crying were all fun.Spring is here ,this is the time to go out more often especially after the long winter season.Have fun, do whatever it takes to make your day wonderful.

  Posted By tyna     May 2, 2008       5 comments  

1. Begin at infancy to give the child everything he wants.In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.
2. Quarrel frequently in the presence of your children.In this way they won’t be so shocked when the home is broken up later.
3. When he picks up bad words,laugh at him.This will make him think he’s cute.
4. Give the child all the spending money he wants.Never let him earn his own.
5. Never give him any spiritual training.Wait until he is 21years old and then let him decide for himself.
6. Satisfy his every craving for food,drink,and comfort.See that his every sensual desire is gratified.
7. Avoid the use of “wrong”.He may develop a guilt complex.This will condition him to believe later,when he is arrested,that the society is against him and he is being persecuted.
8. Let him read any printed material,and listen to any music he can get his hands on.Be careful that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage.
9. Pick up everything he leaves lying around.Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility to others.
10. When he gets into real trouble apologise to yourself saying,”I could never do anything with him”.
11. Take his part against neighbours,teachers,and policemen.They are all prejudiced against your child.
12. Prepare for a life of grief.You will likely have it.
    Taken from a pamplet entitled Twelve rules for raising deliquent children distributed by the Huston Police department.

  Posted By tyna     May 1, 2008       8 comments