This is our estate where we live but as you all know very soon we will leave.Its 22 floors we live on the 6th floor.
A New Day
I started this new week by hurting my right knee, it hurts but nothing serious. Thinking back now I realised that if I have done things differently I wouldn’t have injured myself in the first instance, I was chasing after Shawn who was messing himself with his food. They like to play with food whenever they are full, well I slipped while trying to maintain my balance I hit my knee on the floor. Why was I chasing him, when I knew quite well that it will make him try to stress me the more because to him we are having fun. I wasn’t too excited getting out of bed this morning, but have to because I don’t have a choice.
I forgot to add the twins in their school uniform in my post I experienced acupuncture well here it is, can you see how cute they are?
We got a letter in the post on Friday informing us that our stay in Korea is about to expire that we should come and renew it. I was just wondering; what is the point since we will leave soon, if we renew the alien card we still have to drop it with immigration at the airport or we will be fined. Every country with their own rules, actually I don’t have any use for their card. I am suspecting my husband on been high on something but can’t place my hand on what yet. He goes out at the slightest opportunity he gets then comes back not making sense in his questions and discussions. I asked him yesterday if he has started smoking grass, he only laughed and told me that he has a lot of things to think about. My question then was if he has found a solution to whatever you are thinking about. He replied no; I don’t know why he spends so much energy worrying about things that he can not change, in the process creating something he doesn’t want.
I have been reading this blog for sometimes now the owner writes about things that he is grateful for each day,i will encourage you to focus on the positive things in life keep a journal of the things you are grateful for everyday.I hurt my knee today but am grateful that i have children of my own to chase about.

  Posted By tyna     May 26, 2008       3 comments  

4 Powerful Personal Development Questions That Eliminate Fear

Is fear holding you back from achieving your dreams? Do you hesitate when you have the chance to move forward in life because you are paralysed by your own imagination - thinking of all the terrible things that could happen?

Have you ever been in a situation where you were prepared for the worst to happen? Your mind ran wild with terrible imaginings and you were literally paralysed by fear! Then the event actually occurred! Yet when you eventually passed through the actual experience you realised that the fear you had was much worse than the actual event!

Most of us have had such experiences.

On the other hand have you ever feared the worst and it didn’t happen?

In both the above situations you probably worked yourself into a frenzy in anticipation of this terrible thing that was about to happen only to find out later that your fears were unfounded. Your fears were worse than the eventual experience.

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” Franklin D. Roosevelt 1933.

So what is fear and how do we defeat it?

Well fear occurs when you allow your negative programming to influence your thinking. It rears its ugly head when you find yourself out of your comfort zone! It is the unknown outcome that produces fear in any situation and the collection of many thoughts that direct your consciousness to the worst possible scenario.

Fear is false!

If you look closely at your fears you will find that the great majority of them never come to pass and those that do are not as bad as you expected them to be.

The key to conquering fear lies in your thinking and questioning. In future when you are confronted with a fear you should stop for a moment and take a very deep breath. Breathing deeply relaxes the body and removes the tension that the fear is creating in your body. Then look closely at the way you have just been thinking. You will find that your mind was filled with the worst possible images connected to your fear.

Reverse the thoughts! Begin by questioning the fear. Use the following four questions to paralyse the fear!

1. Is this fear really based on anything that is true?

2. If the fear were to become reality would the experience really be as bad as you have been thinking it would be?

3. Is it possible that you may actually gain something from experiencing the feared event?

This last question may sound like a strange thing to ask yourself but there is a two-fold reason for asking it. Firstly, any thought in a different direction breaks the runaway train of negative fearful thought! Secondly, it forces you to look at the fear from a different perspective and neutralizes its power.

4. Is it possible that if I change my thinking now I can actually create what I want instead of being fearful?

When we change how we think we change how we act. Many people actually bring about their fears because they are constantly thinking about them. By focusing on your fears you tend to act in ways that are connected to the fears and thus you unconsciously create the feared event. An example would be a person who fears they will lose their partner. They therefore try to control them in every way in order to ensure the person will never leave them. I am sure you can see that this behaviour will actually push the person away. Yet to them they are ensuring they keep the person! We all act like this everyday with our fears.

Likewise, when we hold in mind the expectation that we will receive what we want to receive our thinking affects our actions and we find ourselves attracting the very things we want.

So to avoid attracting situations and people that will help you manifest your own fears constantly ask yourself the four fear-busting questions above. You will soon find that your fears are only shadows with no real substance and you will begin to move forward in the direction you want.

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  Posted By tyna     May 23, 2008       4 comments  

Have you noticed that many people are happier on Fridays as opposed to Mondays? For some it marks; the beginning of the weekend’s frolicking, clubbing, partying. For others it is an end to a hectic week in the office. Fridays are no different from any other day to me; but I am happy because I managed to survive another week without going insane. Did I say insane? Yes! I did, if you have 3 boys less than 5 years you will understand why retaining my sanity is the greatest battle I have to fight every day. Don’t ask how I did it, because I honestly don’t know the whole answer to that.
Today was one of those days that things don’t just go the way you expected or planned it. I took the twins to school before 9.30am because they were going to a reptile museum. On Monday their school introduced a school uniform, see them in uniform here.
Last 2 weeks they were taught sex education, now tell me what 20 months old kids will understand on that topic. On Wednesday after walking them to school I went to the Korean oriental clinic to get a massage and acupuncture.
Acupuncture is one of the oldest, most commonly used medical procedures in the world. Originating in China more than 2,000 years ago, acupuncture began to become better known in the United States in 1971.

The term acupuncture describes a family of procedures involving stimulation of anatomical points on the body by a variety of techniques. The acupuncture technique that has been most studied scientifically involves penetrating the skin with thin, solid, metallic needles that are manipulated by the hands or by electrical stimulation. Consists of trained professional puncturing needles into the client’s body at specific points to relieve pain or cure a disease.

The clinic I went to hand manipulated the needles, it is not painful and you are advised to say so if you feel any pain. I used the 1 hour I spent there to relax and sleep for awhile. After the needles were removed, suction cups are fixed for tummy massage or any other part of the body. After that a very hot pad is placed on the skin this is the part that drove me nuts, at this point I will be restless. The pads are boiled in a deep electric boiler, then wrapped in a towel and placed on my tummy.
For the massage see photo

That was my week in a nutshell, oh I almost forgot the taxi driver that took me to the clinic, I gave the directions written in Korean he claimed to know the place as I was settling down to enjoy the ride; not quite a pole the driver was turning to the opposite direction. How do you explain to a Korean that doesn’t a word of English that he was the wrong way? What I did was screamed then used sign language, getting close to the clinic he zoomed past the junction. I got there at last. Thinking about it all now it was a fun filled week because I am still sane. Did you see anything around you today to be grateful for?

  Posted By tyna     May 23, 2008       8 comments  

A blog about people in wordpress was started by Ojrak,where she will try to guess where a blogger is from,age,likes and dislikes.It is done in a fun way and she does that with your permission of course.Last week was about Sopranogrl22 and  this second week is all about yours trully myself.Check it and lets hear what you think about our wordpress lady dectetive.

Do It Anyway — Take 5 Minutes To Do Something Important

Life seems to get busier and busier and everywhere you turn there is something to do. How could you possibly add another item on your “To Do” list? Yet this one action is probably the most important thing to do in your life. It is something that you can and need to add to your daily routine. It will only take you 5 minutes or less.

What’s so important that you must add it to your daily routine? It’s taking the time to honor and love yourself. When was the last time you said or thought something loving about yourself? This is what is most lacking in many of our lives and it is something we can consciously decide to increase.

We’ve been trained to think we are not supposed to acknowledge or value what we add to the world. Look around you — how many people do you know that truly love and respect themselves? When you are around individuals who honor themselves, you sense their inner joy.

Today’s society has created a population of ’self-help junkies’ actively searching for that inner love that brings us self-caring. What stops us from using this valuable information to transform our journey in life? Why is it so difficult to recognize and acknowledge our value?

Our value is something we believe is earned from others, and we seek validation from our loved ones, bosses, friends and anyone who is willing to offer us kind and loving words. How often do you value the love you receive by what another person does or doesn’t do for you? The reason for this is that you are dependent on external interactions to judge your own value. We carry this unsatisfying need around our hearts and it causes us great pain.

What if we could start to eliminate our dependency on other people’s love and start to consider their caring as dessert in our lives? Dessert is tempting to have all the time, but we know that three healthy meals nourish us more. So what would truly nourish you?

Start today by building your ’self-loving’ habit. Take a minute to acknowledge yourself. Praising yourself is important. You get to decide what words resonate deeply within you and nourish your heart and soul. You can say something as simple as ‘I Love Me.’

If you feel silly or are resistant to sing words of praise for yourself, do it anyway. Do it anyway every day. Start a habit of waking up and saying something positive about yourself. Go to bed and say something positive about yourself. Think of one positive thing — don’t judge, just say it anyway.

The focus here is to provide self-love that nourishes you and brings joy into your life. Self-love is the only love. The love we offer others comes from the love we have for ourselves. We really can’t offer to others what we don’t have for ourselves. Self-love isn’t getting whatever you can from others, but rather giving love and respect to yourself. Once you have done that, your love can spread to others around you.

You have the right to think of yourself as a priority in your life. You are the only one who has that right. So be a friend to yourself — Do it anyway, no matter what you feel.

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  Posted By tyna     May 22, 2008       7 comments  

You Can Solve Any Problem

“Believe it is possible to solve your problems. Tremendous things happen to the believer. So believe the answer will come. It will.” Norman Vincent Peale

Doesn’t it sometimes seem like everyday our lives are just filled with little problems? They are everywhere—our car breaks down, the dog runs away right before work, or we run out of milk. Before long a person can go crazy! But, we get through these inevitable annoyances in our day.

But, how about the big problems? What about deciding to relocate to another area of the country? Or knowing that your business has lost tons of money this month? What about figuring out if you should change careers? These are the types of problems that often bring us to a full stop. We aren’t sure what to do. What if we make the wrong decision?

Many of us agonize over our big problems for weeks, even months at a time. We think through every single possibility and outcome that could arise because of this problem. And often times, that is all we ever do. We just think about the problem. We don’t do anything about it. We believe, somewhere deep down inside of ourselves, that if we put off the decision-making process just a little bit longer, than perhaps the problem will be magically solved.

There is nothing worse than carrying around a big, heavy problem. It weighs you down and tires you out. You can’t ignore it; it’s right there on your back, like a 50 lb. backpack. You may try to move on with your life, but it’s going to be difficult. Wouldn’t you rather take off your heavy load and take a rest? It’s easier than pretending that it’s not there.

Problems are never solved by ignoring them. Inevitably, we need to take our problems by the horns and wrestle them to the ground. It might be hard work; in fact, you will probably acquire a few bruises along the way. But what is the alternative? You surely don’t want your problems knocking you to the ground! So take out your red cape and face those problems head on…YOU are the one in charge! . Most people become paralyzed with indecision when they are faced with a monumental problem. In fact, it is part of human nature. There is a part of us, deep-down, that feels that if we ignore the problem, then it will simply go away. We try to divert our attention to anything else except for the problem staring us straight in the face.

In other words, we give up. We feel that life has gotten the best of us. Basically we see our problem charging at us 100 mph. Instead of standing up to our problem, we allow our problem to knock us down. And after that, we can’t get up.

No matter how much we hide from our problems, they ALWAYS find us. So, forget about running, hiding or ignoring…these strategies never work. In fact, they only make the problem worse.

The first step in solving a problem is to clearly define the problem. We need to admit that we have this problem. Believe it or not, most people don’t even do this much! People tend to use the “ignoring strategy” and it never, ever works.

Second, you need to put yourself in control of your problem. You cannot allow the problem to control you. Researchers have found that whenever people feel that their lives are beyond their control, their life satisfaction is reduced by 40%. That means that you have no choice but to use strategies that will solve your problems and put you back in control of your life.

Third, you cannot allow your problem to consume and define you. You are not your problem and your problem is only one very small aspect of your life. This much is true. Many people exaggerate their problems and begin to only see their life in terms of their problem. Never make this mistake…it will be detrimental to your happiness.

Scientists have found that happy people see problems as temporary, solvable and isolated. Unhappy people view problems as all-consuming and a definition of who they are. Work very hard to see your problem realistically. Of course your problem may be monumental. It may be a very difficult problem to solve. But there are other aspects of your life.

In order to be truly happy, you will need to directly address the problems in your life. And unfortunately, as one problem disappears, another will surface. Such is the nature of life.

We all must realize that problems are indeed a part of life. Your life will never be problem-free. That is impossible. Instead, you will need to accept the fact that there will always be a problem to solve. Some of these problems will be small, some will seem enormous.

Our goal is not to hope that problems will not come our way. For problems will always be making their way to our doorstep. Our goal is to learn how to react to our problems. We need to understand that we are in charge of how we will approach the problems in our lives.

How you decide to solve your problems is up to you. No one else can do it for you. You can ignore the problem and pretend that it’s not there. You can run from the problem and hope that it

doesn’t catch up to you. Or you can hide from the problem and hope that it doesn’t find you. OR, you can take control of your problem.

As a final thought, I want you to know that I truly believe that there is a solution for every problem. The solution may be difficult, but there is a solution. There is no problem in our human lives that cannot be solved if we dedicate our energy to the solving of it.

Nothing is impossible. If you believe that from the bottom of your heart, then it will happen. You simply have to be the driving force behind the solving of the problem.

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Jessica Swanson is an extremely successful entrepreneur, marketer and life coach who has achieved a high six-figure income. She had mentored hundreds of others on how to achieve the same results. You can visit her at http://www.unlimitedprosperityteam.com

  Posted By tyna     May 21, 2008       7 comments